6 Correction Improve your marriage

 Rudy and Marjorie were on the verge of a breakup. Twelve years later, they had a heated argument with what counselors called a deep division - 

meaning they had long been ignored. Inside, they looked and felt depressed, yet they could not communicate and convey these feelings. Both were “cold heroes” sitting firm so one could take the first step toward softening the cold weather. The couple is dealing with a common birth defect - a lack of ability to repair the damage done to each other. As in a marriage test, almost all couples fight; which often distinguishes between the “aces” of marriage and the “disaster” of marriage and the ability to repair the damage. Acquiring good repair skills provides two or three ways to recover from any mistakes they may have made. These caring skills provide “repair” to the damage caused by trying to transfer to each other in a way that has caused great pain between them. It is common for couples to make mistakes in relationships - all that is thought, anyone can have a bad day, be under a lot of pressure, or use the wrong thinking to control what is happening. Instead of getting angry or frustrated, try to “fix it” if you are guilty of wrongdoing. In addition, if you think you are a risk-taker, your test is to find out how you can recognize your partner's corrective effort - that is, to see your partner's corrective action as a means of improvement. Reconciliation Tool # 1 - Apologize Positive and sincere feelings of reconciliation can sometimes indicate a relationship, especially if your partner sees you as someone who never admits guilt or guilt. Make statements such as: "I'm sorry; I'm sorry; What I did was dumb; I don't know if I was infected." GOOD TOOL # 2 - get rid of emotions. Share and discuss less aggressive thoughts such as tremors, embarrassment, or instability. Your spouse may react differently to the breakup, rather than just getting angry. This does not mean that you need to agree with it; Just seeing you can reduce stress and stress as it shows your partner that you are watching him or her. It also shows empathy - the ability to put things in perspective and not just yours. Make statements such as: "I understand; I have never looked at you that way." ADVERTISING TOOL # 4 - Accept another responsibility for a dispute. There are no 100 percent problems with the deficiency of one or another partner. All things being equal, many arguments are like a dance floor and you both take steps to add to the story. The inability to admit any debt is a sign of self-defense as opposed to accepting the expectation in good writing. Make statements such as: "I should not have 'done what I did; I think we both hit you; I understand why you answered me that way." Adjustment TIP # 5 - get shared views. Zero on the main thing and what you share in every purpose and purpose instead of your differences. For example, you may both agree that raising strong children is the same goal even though you are different.

 Make statements such as: "We both seem to have the same goal here; we are not strategically stable but we both need the same outcome." DEVELOPMENT Tool # 6 - Commit to improving behavior. "I'm sorry" does not bother you in case you resume immoral behavior. Words that emphasize work. Show more evidence that you will try to change. Make statements such as: "I swear I'll get up half an hour soon from now; I'll call when I get late; I'll just have two drinks at the party and quit."