Six Repair Tools For Your Marriage

 Rudy and Marjorie were almost completely separated. Twelve years later, they are constantly arguing and concluding that what the counselors call the impending eviction — that is, 

they are simply not paying attention. Inside, they looked and were devastated at each other, however, they could not connect and transmit these feelings. They were “in cold warfare” both hanging tightly so that one could take the important step of dismantling the frozen ground. The couple is dealing with a common birth defect — as well as a lack of the ability to repair the damage done to each other. As with marriage testing, almost all couples fight; which often separates the “aces” of marriage from the “catastrophes” of marriage and the ability to repair the damage done. Acquiring good repair skills provides a few ways to recover from the combination they may have made. These caring skills provide “repairs” to the damage done by trying to transfer to each other in a way that has caused great pain between them. 

It is common for partners to make mistakes in relationships - all that is thought, anyone can have a bad day, be under extreme pressure, or use erroneous thinking to control what is happening. Instead of emotionally draining each other or staying angry, try to "fix it" if you are guilty. In addition, in the unlikely event that you are a victim of an injury, your test is to find out how you can acknowledge your colleague's corrective effort — that is, to see your colleague's correction effort as a means of improvement. Correction Tool

1 — Apologies With a sincere and sincere expression of remorse here and there we can reflect on the relationship, especially if your roommate sees you as someone who never admits guilt or guilt. Make statements such as: "I'm sorry; I'm sorry; What I did was really stupid; I don't know what happened to me." CORRECT Tool

 2 — pour out emotions. Be honest and specific about details such as irritability, embarrassment, or weakness. Your roommate may respond in a variety of ways when he sees such a variety of emotions, not just his temper. Pouring out your heart and your heart can do much to enhance your understanding, intimacy, and intimacy. Make statements such as: "I was really quiet with our girl when I was very angry; I didn't need to hurt you; I just hit the gasket." FIXING Tool 

3 — Agree with a Partner's Opinion. This does not mean that you need to agree with it; Just seeing you can reduce stress and strain as it shows your partner that you are paying attention. The same is true of empathy — the ability to put things in perspective and not just your own. Make statements such as: "I understand; I have never looked at you that way." REMEDY TOOL 

4 — Accept some responsibility for the dispute. There are not many 100 percent struggles for the shortcomings of one or the other partner. All things being equal, many arguments are like a dance floor with both of you taking action to add to the story. The inability to admit any debt is a sign of restraint instead of accepting what is expected in good writing. Make statements such as: "I should not have 'done what I did; I think we both hit you; I understand why you answered me that way." TIP fixing 

5 — get a shared view. Set between the main thing that needs attention and what you actually share that goes against your diversity. For example, you can both agree that raising strong children is a shared goal even though you are comparing it to parenting methods. Make statements such as: "We both seem to have the same goal here; we do not solve strategies but we both need the same outcome." DEVELOPING Tool 

6 — Commit to improving behavior. "I'm sorry" does not end with the assumption that you are constantly reviving hostile behavior. Words that emphasize work. Show more evidence that you will try to change.